Different needs of women of different ages
The famous psychologist Floyd once said: I have studied female psychology for 30 years, and I still do n’t know what women want most.
This Freud sentence reveals the psychological characteristics of women. On the surface, they may need so much that they cannot extricate themselves from the loach that surrounds desire.
Some women may not even know what they really want, and they do n’t understand until they lose it one day.
In fact, women of different ages have different needs. Only by sorting out their emotions and recognizing their true needs, can they get out of their misunderstanding.
The needs of 25-year-old women: innocent love girls, especially those who are in love for the first time, have pure and beautiful expectations for love.
They yearn for supreme love, everyone wants to meet the ideal “Prince of the White Horse” in their hearts, and everyone wants to meet the unconditional attention and admiration of each other.
There is nothing wrong with this.
Isn’t this all the classic masterpieces, poetry and beauty all the time?
The pursuit of innocent love is the real need of young girls, but in this need, some girls have added too much connotation to it, putting control of desire, comparison of hearts, gains and losses, and the result can only cause their ownHuge interference inside.
The typical mental state of young women during the love period is: always want to show their pride, reorganize and get the attention and love of the opposite sex; replace the “Prince of White Horse” who hopes to be versatile, multi-gold and multi-powered, standing in front of outsiders, and proudFor the time being, I hope that he will not be so “personal” to himself, but be gentle and considerate.
When this mentality is combined with a strong personality in a girl, it is easy to create excessive tension in love and lose love.
The needs of 35-year-old women in the workplace: Not willing to lose the traditional image in pursuit of career success, not a man’s patent, it is a real need for all middle-aged women. At the same time, every middle-aged woman also wants to inherit gentleness and goodwill, and husbands.Godmother’s traditional female image.
These two need to be contradictory on the surface, at least women need to pay more heat to change roles.
What these women need to do is to seek the understanding and support of their husbands at home, and then the understanding and support of their parents-in-law and children. At the unit, they must be good at seeking the help and support of leaders and colleagues, while letting subordinates share the work pressure.
By doing so, the people around you will be respected by your strong woman, and will help you share your concerns.
In addition, this type of female friend can also learn a little decompression tips: 1. distinguish between work and family, not let emotions contagious each other; leave work in the work space within 8 hours, and leave the remaining time to her husband,Children and themselves, changing roles on the way to and from work.
2. Find someone who can talk to you, or express your emotions quickly (scold or cry).
The needs of 45-year-old middle-aged women: sense of security, equality, and warmth. Women around 45 are often nicknamed the “three no” people-no youth, no freedom, no capital.
These people’s careers are going downhill, or maintaining the status quo.
The family’s sense of responsibility determines that they must shoulder the burden of childcare, and the heavy housework makes them unbelievable.
They live in a small kitchen world. They are busy all day long with Chaimi oil and salt sauce vinegar. They have few people to interact with. They have a narrow vision and tend to become worried, distressed, withdrawn social functions, and afraid to deal with people.
Because they have no career support, they are inferior and insecure.
In fact, what these women really need is a sense of family security, warmth, and equality in marriage.
But they seem to get the opposite result.
Their problem is their lack of independence.
So how do they decompress themselves?
1. Re-learn, increase self-confidence, and get back to yourself.
Tell yourself: “You are a useful person and an irreplaceable member of the family.
“At the same time, strengthen learning, regain control of your own life, and find a sense of independence.
2. Carefully observe and integrate into the family.
To actively improve the relationship within the family, we must attach importance to the emotional exchange between husband and wife, and educate children in a democratic way.
3. Get out of the kitchen.
By participating in community activities, traveling, etc. Fang Li, broadening her horizons and trying to change the rhythm and habits of life, this is a good opportunity to cultivate a new mood.
Women’s experiences in more than 3 age groups show troubles and conflicts with most inner needs.
As long as you recognize your core needs, then reduce the surface needs, and pay attention to skills, you can quickly regain your happiness.